I want women to feel confident. I am a true believer in doing whatever makes you happy. If you hate makeup, don’t wear it. If you hate wrinkles, get Botox. I am not here to tell you to do something or not, but I want to provide you with tools to make you feel good about yourself. I think many people are drawn to my “not give a fuck” attitude. Does that mean I actually don’t care about what people think of me? Of course not. But if I am over here putting in the effort and you still don’t like me, leave me alone because I like me.
When someone checks out bradylayne.com I want them to feel inspired to be their best self. As mothers, we dedicate our lives to our children and spouse. We sacrifice our bodies and let our vaginas be ruined to then spend years putting everyone else first and not making ourselves a priority. We are mothers and we are fucking good at it. But there is a lot more to us.
My reason to start this blog is because I struggled with finding my purpose. When I would tell others about my struggle I discovered that I was not the only one feeling this way. I vented to a client of mine one day about how I want (and have) the luxury of staying home with my children to raise them, but that I also want to make something of myself with a career. It seemed impossible to do both and I yelled “I just want to have it all!”
This client, who happens to have the most logical head on her shoulders, responded with “what makes you think you don’t have it all? You may feel like you don’t have your shit together, but anyone looking in on your life from the outside thinks that you do have it all and they probably want what you have.”
MIND BLOWN.
We are what we put out into the world. If we don’t feel good about ourselves, the universe knows it. Women are sexy. How do you think we convinced these men to give us babies in the first place? Making ourselves feel good shouldn’t be for anyone but ourselves, but when we feel confident it affects the people around us in such a positive way. I want women to know that it’s okay to love yourself. It’s what is best for you and those around you. I am here to tell you how amazing you are or can be.
Mothers like me, have lost their identity and know they want and deserve more. As mothers, we lose ourselves in the chaos of parenthood and we lose our confidence. It’s amazing how “getting yourself back” will do wonders for your heart/mind, but also benefit the people around you because happiness is contagious.
My purpose is to let women know that they are not alone in feeling a certain way while in the throws of parenthood and that it’s okay to not always be happy, but if we learn to love ourselves again, it benefits not only us, but everyone around us. Imagine the lesson we are instilling in our children if we teach them that it’s okay to love yourself and be confident.
We are raising the future right now and I know that scares the shit out of me. Enough to try and be my best self so I can take care of them and make them at least half decent humans.
Someone in this family has got to be.
